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Old 07-03-2012, 07:54 AM   #16
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Re: Opinions please abuse or different parenting?

Originally Posted by mommy24babes View Post
Just in case anyone wondered we lived in an attached home and shared smells of everything.
I asked what they had cooked the previous day because it smelled good. He got very offended and told me it was none of my business what went on in his house and my dh should teach me some respect / put me in my place.
My stomach still does flip flops even thinking about it.
Something I considered innocent and even nice ( complimenting their cooking ) was incredibly offensive to him.
I know it's hard to defend a statement like that, which would have boiled my blood as well, but... you really never know what it was like where they came from, or what they have been through since they have been here in the US. Maybe they have had a hard time adjusting to the culture, maybe people have been pushy with them/pried into their lives/made them feel bad about their cultural identity. Maybe things like that have driven him over the edge of politeness and into a state of defensiveness.

Or, maybe he's truly an *** who hates women and doesn't take care of his kids. But, the point is, you don't know yet which one is occurring. Maybe you could get to know his wife? You might get a better picture of what's going on, then.
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