I like the ideas of having list of things for "helpers" to do/meals to cook.
Also great tip to stay in pajamas/wear a robe. That'll show em that u are recovering and not entertaining.
My dh and I are on same page on this point that del room is just for us and after we get home, we need to adjust by ourselves. I moved 3 hrs from my fam to be with dh, and his family is all close by, but thankfully are respectul most of the time but dh doesn't have any problem telling his mom like it is if she gets pushy.
I SOOOO would not want anyone staying over at my house after having a babe. No way. Too much work.