Re: Your thoughts please..... and support
Before you head off to find another church, if that's what you and DH feel God calling you to do, please speak to the pastor. Even if you leave, he needs to know your reasons so that he can take steps to see it doesn't happen again. Her behavior is not acceptable and she needs to be held accountable for it.
Try to not beat yourself up over this. We all make mistakes, unfortunately, so you are certainly not alone.