Unbelievable! They are cruel! I had THE hardest time leaving ds1 because he's do connected to me. Even now at three I don't leave him; and if I do for a few minutes I get " mommy- you left me!" the nursery workers tried a few times taking him on their own. I went back to find he had been "good" too but had cried himself to sleep; and had wanted no part of that. They quickly learned that I would be staying in the nursery and quit telling me I had to "teach him" by leaving him.
I think I would even relay this to the Pastor. Even if they where trying to "help" you she really took it too far!!