I agree with trying counseling. In the meantime I'd also try getting a job, even if it's just evening/weekends when he can watch the LO's. I'll be praying for your family.
Denise, building a life with B
my farmer, Mom to L 09.2006, W 12.2006, A 04.2013, and B 09.2014 and one angel 10.24.2013