Re: I know this has been discussed a million times.
You're not selfish at all, circumcision is a permanent thing, and eventhough you can restore it, it will not bring back the actual nerve endings, etc. You're DH is being a little immature saying that it's gross and he refuses to change a diaper if you don't do it.
I would just try another heart to heart and let him know that you understand his feelings, but that this is something that the AAP actually says there is no need for the majority of boys to have it done and it's something that cannot be undone. Try to make it short and simple without all the other stuff. In the end, just don't consent to it.