Re: My first c-section - so many questions!
I have not experienced a c-section myself, but I took classes to be a childbirth educator and my first birth was very traumatic.
Here's my suggestions, and
Invest in a postpartum belly wrap. These are good for ANY birthing Mama, but especially helpful after a c-section or other abdominal surgery. I do not recommend the fitted velcro on type like some hospitals give out, they're just awful. Look for a device similar to a Moby wrap! It allows you to wrap to your comfort level. The fitted velcro type, you literally need three people and a foot to get you into. Totally torture.
Have you heard of "baby friendly" hospitals and birth practices? They have extended the idea to c-sections as well. MOST c-sections/doctors/hospitals can accommodate these wishes no problem, obviously emergency health situations barred but sounds like your c-section is expected to go smoothly.
Here's some info on baby friendly c-sections I quickly Googled:
Have you looked into getting a doula or other support system (other than husband/partner?) I highly recommend! Doulas have shown time and time again to improve birthing and recovery outcomes for mom and baby. And, it never hurts to have extra hands around.
~Lana~ SAHM and EMT student to J 4/11/07, Asperger's, ADHD, ODD, MDNOS A 3/25/10, Autism N 10/14/11