If your husband is so against CIO, what are his ideas on how to resolve the issue?
FWIW, neither DH or I were in love with the idea of CIO but after trying it, it actually did work. If you all are against it though, have you heard about or read The Baby Whisperer? She has some good ideas in there about introducing a "lovey" and some other helpful tips to get more sleep without using the CIO method.
Hugs! I hope you find something that works very soon. I know how awful it is when you are sleep deprived!
Wife of 4 years to DH and mama to our sweet DD who's the love our our life!