Re: Gah! Seriously?
I have a similar experience with my pregnancies, mama. With DS the contractions started around 18 weeks. With DD they started at 16wks. They were NOT BHs, but they were contractions. I was also told I had an "irritable uterus" (really? could they be any LESS specific?), and they got stronger as I got closer to due date. With DD, real labor started at 34 weeks, 3-5min apart, and dilated to 3-4. I had already been on moderate bed rest for FOREVER. They managed to slow things down and put me on a med to try to hold off until closer to my due date. The only thing that sounds really different is the spotting and increase in nausea.
I wouldn't go to that doc again, either. If he is telling you something other than what the OB has told you, then go with the OB's assessment. Around here, if you are 19/20+ weeks, they tell you to bypass the ER and go straight up to the experts on L&D. Do you have a hospital near you that will do that?
Have you talked to your OB at this point? It sounds like somebody in obstetrics may need to look at you.