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Old 09-04-2012, 07:38 AM   #45
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Re: Just annoyed and frustrated re: potty training

Oh Andrea, I am in the exact same boat as you. My dd is almost 39 months old, was cd'd, I tried to introduce pt'ing to her when she turned 2 but she had no interest so I waited until she showed signs of readiness at 2 1/2 and at that point she was always dry in the morning and after naps so I knew she had control. She can go a week or more without a single accident, in fact, in the spring she went nearly a month without an accident so I was sure we were on the right track. Once the newness of this new activity wore off, she lost interest and will only go when it appeals to her. People say "you're the parent, MAKE her go" Ummm....short of busting her legs to get her to sit on the potty, I don't know how I can MAKE her go. I've tried every single method anyone has ever suggested to me. I've tried the 3 day method, I've tried rewards, I've tried naked time, having her clean up the mess and bring her undies to the laundry room, "threats" of we won't do this or that if you pee on the furniture, letting her sit in her urine soaked undies so she feels how uncomfortable it is, letting her pick out undies she loves...I have tried it all. She's been out of diapers since February.


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My DD will be 3.5 and won't potty train either. I did the 3 day method for 2.5 weeks with NO success. Not one. She knows when she has to go but refuses to go on the potty. I've tried rewards, only panties, naked etc... She is supposed to start preschool on Thursday and when I tell her she can't go if she wont pee on the potty she says it's not worth it.

I have zero advice only
So frustrating, I know how you feel. Mine is the same exact way.

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It's not your fault :/. My DD is the same way no matter what I do. She doesn't care about being wet or sitting in poop either.
They have to want to do it and until the desire is there they won't.
Agreed!

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Gah! The little goober's started something new now, lol. I take him to go change his diaper every so often now, and if he happens to be dry, I offer him the potty. He'll sit, and sometimes pee, and sometimes not. But today, the past two times I've taken him, he's wanted a "new" diaper from the cabinet instead of the perfectly dry one that he'd been wearing. I was able to put the old diaper in the cabinet first, and then take it right back out so that it looked new (but not new enough b/c he protested very slightly when he realized my ploy), but this time just now, I didn't want to try that again, so I asked if he wanted some undies (which he's worn before, but just not all the time). He wanted some undies so we went to his room and I gave him a choice between two pair, and he picked some, and I asked if he could keep them dry, and he said yes. So we'll see how the rest of the afternoon goes. It's motivation for me to offer the potty more often, if nothing else, lol.
My nephew did the same thing. They used pull-ups with him and every time he went and sat on the potty he wanted a new pull up even if the last one was perfectly dry.

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And I took him to the bathroom just now, right before bedtime, and his undies were soaked and cold. :/ So much for the idea of undies making him dislike the wet feeling and being motivated to go to the potty. He didn't even tell me or care or anything, just kept playing with his sister.
Yup, mine doesn't care either. She'll sit on the couch, pee, and continue sitting there with no mention of being wet. I swear I spend the largest portion of my day cleaning upholstering and mopping urine off floors. Some days I feel like all I did all day was deal with urine.

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I mean, if I knew that somewhere in the book or forum, she would address the child who does not care if they're wet (in normal undies), and continues to not care for longer than the week that she says potty training should take, AND there are answers there that I can use and that WORK, yeah, I'd find a way to scrounge up the $15. But I don't know that that's in there, so I can't.
At this point, I'd pay hundreds for a solution! I will try anything at this point.

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Maybe this is progress. I don't know. Just seconds after he used his diaper just now, he goes walking towards the bathroom and says, "I wet. Go potty."
My dd sometimes does this (when she feels like it) - she can have 3 great days in a row with no accidents, then the next day she wakes up not feeling like it and she'll pee her pants all day long.

Good luck. And thank you to all the momma's who shared their stories. I get so tired of hearing people say things like "my dd pt'd in 5 days and kids who don't it's b/c their mom's aren't doing their job." (MIL says this!)
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