09-19-2012, 09:17 PM
Join Date: Aug 2008
3yr old says teacher spanks
This might get long winded...
This morning Emma (3) had to go potty as soon as we got to school (all day pre-school, private). While she was on the potty she somehow managed to pee on her shorts....so I said, no problem, we have extra clothes in your backpack, we need to change your shorts.
She then says "Ms. S spanks the little boy when he goes potty". I asked her to repeat what she said and she again said her teacher spanks the boy when he goes potty. I asked if she really said spank and she said yes. I asked if it was in the classroom and she said yes and then started singing a song....converstaion over.
This afternoon I asked her to show me what she meant by "spank" and she slapped her leg with her hand. I asked where the little boy was spanked...I said "on his hiney, or his leg, or..." and first she said leg and then she giggled and said no, his hiney.
I know the class has some issues with going potty - they are 3 yr olds and the school requires that they be potty trained (in the handbook)...they are a pre-school not a day care so they are not set up to be changing diapers. I know that there is one boy (from convos with the teacher) that is NOT potty trained and always has accidents..and several other kids that are not fully potty trained. The school sent a note home that all kids needed to be potty trained by Oct 1 or they would need to be withdrawn...again, the rules/handbook clearly says they needed to be potty trained to be in the class...that's why Emma is almost 4 (in the 3 yr old class) because she was not potty trained last year.
I totally believe Emma...she was just in that "zone"...it's like she saw her "spare clothes" and had this moment where things were "clicking" and she put 2 and 2 together and just matter of fact told me what she did. I don't think she was cared , per say, she just had this thought that...potty accident and spanking...and she just said it.
I am going to talk to the director tomorrow morning (she was in a meeting this afternoon). I know I want to tell her that I do not want them pulling Emma out of class to speak to her. I want to say either I bring her in in the morning and I am with her or (preferrably) they don't ask her anything. I don't want Emma feeling like she said something wrong. I don't know if it would be appropriate for me to ask what their procedure is and for me to have the "results". I don't want to continue in the class wondering if they ever even investigated it. If they do some training or something I want to know that it was done. Would it be appropriate to ask that?? I know the handbooks says they do not condone spanking or use it for discipline. Anything else I should ask? Should I ask for it to be documented, and ask for proof?? Should I ask that the other parent (of the little boy) be notified? I just don't want to seem like I am over-reacting but I don't think it should just be swept under the rug. I don't want Emma thinking that potty accidents deserve a spanking.
Mama to 3 crazy kiddos - A - 14 P - 6 E - 5 and a little baby J - 2
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