Re: Am I asking too much?
to answer your question- no, you are not asking too much. I make my 2 yr old clean up his stuff several times a day.
I like your idea of only structured art time until she can remember. you can do that with anything she forgets.
Jul, Mama to 1/2 dozen boys; and been doing those "off-beat" parenting things way before they were cool and learning more each day!