Re: DD hates school!!
Definitely talk to the teacher about the school work. The 17th is two weeks away so I would see about moving that up.
Kindergarten is still young enough to for parents to manufacture friendships and that's what we all do in Kindy. Ask her if any of the girls seem nice and then set to work organizing afterschool and weekend playdates etc..
All she needs is 2-3 good friends and then it won't matter what the rest of the class is doing/speaking because she'll be off having fun with her friends.