DD1 had epi, episiotomy, and vacuum. Couldn't feel a darn thing so they had to tell me when to push and I doubt I pushed very effectively. DD2 had epi but could feel pressure before pushing but no urge and while I didn't need any "help" I think it's because she was so small. DD3 &4 had natural water births and I def felt an urge to push! DD3 I was a little unprepared for since it was my 1st natural and I didn't know how it was gonna be. I remember saying "I can't do this!" but of course I did. DD4 I was more relaxed and knew I could do it and what to expect so it didn't seem as "hard" and the intensity/pain of delivery seemed less.
Holly, mommy to 6 ~ 4 on earth 2 in Heaven