Re: 10 hours of pushing. Yes, I said pushing. Anyone else go long??
I have had all 3 of my kids in a hospital and all 3 with epidurals just as a disclaimer
I pushed for 3 hours with my first (and nobody was threatening a c section) and had them help with the vacuum because I was so exhausted that I was literally falling asleep between pushes. I firmly believe that I only had to push that long because as soon as I got to 10 the nurse had me start pushing even though I didn't have the urge to push. Baby was in position and I had some pressure but not that urge to push. I didn't know this at the time since it was my first.
With my second I got to 10 and my nurse told me to just let my body do the work until I just felt like I absolutely had to push, so I waited. When I got that urge to push DS was born in 2 pushes (would have been one but they made me stop for a second). One for the head, one for the shoulders.
With my third I didn't get my epidural until 8cm so when I got to 10 I was still really numb. I NEVER got the urge to push with her. Once I got to 10 I told the nurse I was going to wait until I felt like I just HAD to push and she said that was fine. 3 hours later my OB came in the room and said "your pushing now". She knew I was more than ready and she was right. 2 pushes and she was out. My labor would have been 3 hours shorter if I would have just pushed and my labor with her was only 4 1/2 hours anyways.
My longest labor was 7 1/2 hours total, I was induced and 3 of it was pushing. I can't fathom pushing for 10 hours.
The only time you should look in your neighbor's bowl is to make sure that they have enough. You don't look in your neighbor's bowl to see if you have as much as them.