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Old 10-06-2012, 06:32 AM   #20
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Re: Question for the Non-Santa Crew

Thanks everyone, again, for your thoughts. I started multiquoting, and could quote everyone.

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Originally Posted by ajane View Post
Good question, OP! I always seem by it.

But, you can teach them that the other 364 days a year. Believe me, my kids know very well that things aren't free and that dh works very hard for us to have what we have. Why is it that kids can't be kids and live in the magic of things for 1 day. I'm sorry, it just seems selfish to me.
This is kind of how we feel, too, which is why I wondered. Don't we all love that feeling of special-ness, that someone might give us something frivolous, expecting nothing in return? As much as I want my kids to be grateful and appreciate what they have, I also want them to feel that moment of special.

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Originally Posted by KaleidoscopeEyes View Post
we dont celebrate xmas anyway but we did the first 2 years after ds1 was born. x was very passionate about not doing santa or any other mythical gift giving character. he felt very deceived when he found out he had been lied to all those years about santa. he did not want to do that to his kids as well. and i personally dont like the way most parents use santa as a way to get good behavior from their children. ive heard so many say "you need to be good if you want santa to bring you something this year" the whole santa thing never appealed to me. as a child i was very skeptical and knew that something was going on around age 5.
I also dislike this. We don't do this, but we know people who do. The story of your x is why my BIL doesn't do Santa. He felt deceived by his parents as well.

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Originally Posted by mibarra View Post
I think it's less about credit and more about deception for a lot of people. Technically speaking Santa is kind of a lie. . I also think some people reject it on religious or anti-commercialism grounds.
I agree, many people don't do Santa because of the implied deception (see above) or for religious reasons. But, I have noticed some people specifically saying they want the credit. Thus the thread.

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Originally Posted by jen_batten View Post
Both of these. (although we do celebrate holidays) I have several reasons why we don't celebrate Santa and this is just a tiny one. But I do want the kids to know that those items have value and that someone who loves you worked very hard so that you could have it. Not that some fake-person delivered this to you because that's what he does. And you won't get any flames from me, OP. An honest question isn't a bad thing and shouldn't draw flames! (But of course on DS, it might!)
Thanks! I know DS has its drama, but it is one of the better boards I have found for actually having reasonable discussions (sometimes ).
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