[EmilytheStrange]

it would depend.. if she was leaving him with his grandparents or even cousins that he really liked, I would not fight it (her loss).

but if he was going to some random home where there were no other kids or he was just being 'babysat', I'd take it to court to enforce the 'if you're not there, he stays with us'.

Relationships with other family members is good for him even if his mom isn't around. but just random caregivers is a waste of precious childhood time for you guys.