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Old 10-08-2012, 09:08 AM   #31
LKB
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Re: Do you ever question your spouse/partner?

Oh, I don't look forward to dealing with the big differences in opinion. Right now (the baby is 8 months) we're doing pretty well, but mainly because I do most of the caretaking. When I do disagree with him on things (the baby, dogs, etc.) I have found that, at least with my husband, the best tactic is not to call him out head-on, but to try to compliment somehow in the process (e.g., "thank you for handling that--I didn't want to. But, I'm curious why you chose this, because my response would have been..."). I know it's a bit passive-aggressive, and it doesn't always work, but a lot of times it's the way that I begin that colors the rest of the conversation and how defensive/aggresive he is.
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