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Old 10-10-2012, 12:17 PM   #45
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Re: Selfish with your baby

Originally Posted by badmisterkitty View Post
Do some moms hold their babies 24-7? I don't. I don't want to. I want to snuggle for awhile, then put them down for awhile and get some work done, snuggle for awhile, put them down for awhile, etc. I don't have that kind of time any day of the week.

I've always gladly passed my baby to others, too. The only time I cringe is when old cigarrette hands MIL is around and I'm not sure if she's washed or not. She only forgot once, but it wrecked it for me. When people are over, I am balls to the wall busy with housework or whatever I can get done w hile someone else cuddles the baby.

I've also never had anyone try to soothe my babies. Seems like if they cried, they have always been returned to me. I have soothed other people's babies, though. Mom was busy, so I gave her a break. Never occurred to me that their moms would be upset.

I do think it's a child's personality that determines how they take to strangers and such, but I've always tried to balance the fine line between holding enough and holding too much because I cannot have a child attached to me 24-7 and if it prevents stranger anxiety, that's great, too.
This is me. But, I might have a slightly different take than some moms after having my first be severely colicky and needing those breaks and then having 2 sets of twins and only being one mom.

But, I am happy to let other people hold my babies. Obviously, I hold my babies more than anyone else, including hubby. I am glad for the break, personally. Of course, I don't gladly give them to someone who is sick or reeking of smoke nor do I give them easily to strangers. But, I happily let family or friends hold baby.

I also don't have a problem with someone else trying to soothe my baby. Doesn't bother me in the least. If baby doesn't calm quickly, I definitely take them back.
Heather SAHM to 6 who are 7 and under, including 2 sets of twins and our last little miracle, a surviving identical twin, born Oct 2012!
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