Join Date: Sep 2006
It's official. I'm a failure.
And as a note, this morning happened after three GOOD weeks of him staying dry, going to the potty when I take him, staying dry for naps and nights and outings and even with other people, etc. (And really, he's been going to the potty off and on for his whole life since I did some elimination communication with him.) Then sometime in the past week or so, the accidents started happening, then became more frequent.
Today has been a total disaster. It started first thing this morning. DD was on the toilet, and DS (whose birthday is today) was standing nearby, crossing his legs to try not to pee, and crying. DD finished and I put him on the potty and then put his diaper back on afterwards (b/c I'm behind on laundry and wasn't sure where any of his undies were). After breakfast, when we were going to get dressed for the day, his diaper was soaked. I took it off and put undies on. Today is my day to get my shot, so we drove up to my appointment, and I took the kids into the bathroom first. Both of them denied needing to go, but DS started holding himself with his hand, so I intended to put him on the potty, but he'd already started to go a little bit in his clothes. After my appointment, he was holding himself again, so I took him potty again. Then right after we get home (and it's like a 40-minute drive to my appointment), I intend to change his clothes, so he's standing in the bathroom while I hunt down another pair of undies, and when I get back, he is soaked because he's peed through his clothes. I put undies on him and feed them lunch, then after lunch it's time for his nap, so I take him to the bathroom again before his nap, but he's already damp (and cold). I have him show me where he peed (so I could clean it up) and it was in the chair where he was eating lunch. I send him back into the bathroom to wait for me and I clean up the mess, then when I get back into the bathroom, he's standing in a puddle AGAIN! I clean him up and have him lay down so I can put a diaper on him. Then when he's in bed, I tell him that if he needs to go potty, he needs to tell me, and that I'm not going to take him anymore or give him undies anymore.
I can't. I give up. Potty training is stressful. Diapers are stressful. But right now, diapers are the less stressful of the two, so it's diapers again. I'm going to revisit potty training again in.... March or so, after this new baby's been here for a while and I can tell what our new normal is. Until then, though, I give up. I can't do this anymore. And I'm probably setting myself up for an even bigger failure in March since he'll be WAY older than the "magic window" and I'm doing this back and forth with him. But I just can't do it anymore. I can't.