10-12-2012, 06:40 PM
Drinks her not-just-a-smoothie pina coladas in ALL CAPS in front of her preschoolers before she takes her CDs and goes home.
Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Central Florida
RELATED sad UPDATE: It's attitudes like this that continue to perpetuate ignorance.
ETA: So for the last few days Aaron has been really down when it comes to Halloween and whenever any asks what he wants to be for Halloween he gets sad and says "I don't know."
And he would never tell me why.
This morning DH asked when I was going to buy their costumes and Aaron got really sad again and said "Mommy I don't know what I want to be yet."
So I said, "I thought you wanted to be Tinkerbell." To which he replied. "Tinkerbell is for girls." And he was so sad.
I asked who told him that and he said Miss Lula who is one of his teachers from his Pre-school kindergarten readiness class.
I have to be honest and say that I am quite sad and upset. I kind of "get" feeling that way. But I don't get telling and imposing on others one's own personal morals. Now I have a son who is sad and the joy of Halloween is gone and he doesn't really want to be anything now.
And my DH are at such odds over this and he leans more to gender specific things.
Ugghh, just venting.
The teacher that I work with is such a nice lady and we have quite a bit in common. She's a believer like me, but more conservative however she is open-minded as well.
Anyway, she was telling me about her pastor and the message he gave last Sunday. She said he was talking about homosexuality of course [from their point how it's wrong], no biggie there, everyone has a right to believe what they want.
But she said he went on to say "And that's why we must raise our boys to be men and our girls to be women. Boys should only play with cars, trucks, play sports. And girls should play with dolls, barbies, and help do housework.
I'm in shock. I know I shouldn't be. I just am floored that the latter attitude is still alive and that people still think that what a little boy or little girl plays with or does will make them gay. Even if you don't believe someone is born gay, IMO [and I realize that this in controversial], playing with certain toys or being involved in activities like sports or even Home Economics, will NOT make one gay.
I really just don't get that. I don't at all. Especially since my youngest [4 years old] is very drawn to girly/feminine things. But he has no idea about sexuality at this age. It is truly a child's play and imagination.
How sad that with such attitudes we [general we], are the ones that begin attaching stigmas to things that reach our children, thus raising children with those attitudes.
Again, whether one believes in the *born that way* or *choice* is not the issue in this. Being a child and being at play in "only certain ways" is what is so sad and frustrating to me
Every day I feel myself more and more and more turned off by "Christianity". I'm a sold out believer in Christ Jesus. However, between this election year and these kinds of attitudes I just find myself never ever wanting to set foot in a brick and mortar church again.
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Last edited by Terra; 10-14-2012 at 08:04 AM.