Not in your situation personally, but my aunt was. I remember her fretting about the same things you are now when my cousin was about that age. I don't know the details, but I do know that now, at 17, my cousin FAR prefers being with my aunt, and credits her with keeping her on the straight and narrow.
The time has come, my online friends, to talk of many things:
Of flats, and wool, and hybrid dipes - of breastfeeding and slings-
And why our bed is cramped at night,
and the joy my munchkin brings!