Re: Irritated with family!
You don't need anyone's support unless they are going to be caregivers -often.
For times when you are visiting or traveling disposables are ok.
I CDed and my girl was in underwear at 16 months, in the USA.
I wish your friends & family could be nicer about it. You could comeback with the point that they might think cloth is gross but changing a 4 year old's diaper is way grosser.