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OP, while I don't care one way or another what my kids do at home, as far as play, I do worry about them being teased and harassed in public. I honestly do try to direct them to costumes and clothing that is more widely accepted for their gender, so if ds wanted to be a fairy I would try to figure out a boy version so he gets to be what he wants but I don't have to worry about other kids picking on him for his choice. I was picked on a ton as a kid and I do not want my kids to go through that.
Once they are old enough to understand what could come of their choices though, I will not redirect some of those choices, they know what can happen and have decided for them self.