Here's my 2 cents. I have had really rotten pregnancies. I get preeclampsia. My placenta abrupts. With my 4th I abrupted and had a uterine infection and my baby died after birth. I was told that having any more kids would be a bad idea. But I wasn't done and my daughter was born in June only 3 weeks early and perfectly healthy.
Every pregnancy is different and since you've only had one pregnancy it's not a guarantee that you'll have the same issues. Bedrest when you have other kids is hard but it's temporary.
As far as giving your daughter all your love, my kids get a different kind of love from each other. They have such a wonderful relationship that I can't imagine them not having that.
It's a hard decision but only you will know what is really right for you.
Mom to Ry (9), Ri (6), D (4), M (passed away at birth), and our first little girl L (6/12)
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