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Old 10-28-2012, 03:03 PM   #3
My_Tree_Grows
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Re: Hypnobabies Hypno-Protector

DH will be in the house with me, but not really involved in the birth. I had hoped last time that he would be able to answer questions and support me, including defending my wishes to hospital staff. One very traumatic birth later, I recognise that he is incapable of dealing with authority or any kind of stress, he shuts down and withdraws, leaving me to be "in charge" as I always am - but can't be while birthing. No, my doula is prevented by her parent organisation's regulation from speaking to the midwives directly, she can just say things to me ("Are you sure that YOU want an episiotomy? Are cervical checks in your birth plan?") then the onus is on me to speak up. Not exactly conducive to keeping my switch in Off.
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