Re: Ex violated our visitation agreement
If this is a fair representation of the whole house I would violate the visitation agreement and she would not be in that house. That is completely unacceptable, and if he can't see that he has deeper problems than just not liking to clean.
Is there any way you can complain to the courts and let them know you are not sending her for her own safety? I have no experience with this stuff, but I hope you can find a solution.