What size and what carry are you trying? And how big/small are you? I know when I first started wrapping that a size 6 was way to much wrap for me. A size 5 worked so much better. Now after lots of experience, I love 6's just as much as, and maybe more than, my other size wraps.
I know it is frustrating, but it is possible to tame your long wrap!
Cristina, Mama to Michael 03-16-06 , Nathan 01-16-11, and an angel 01-20-09
Go with your gut, follow your heart.