Re: toddler boys with long hair...cut the bangs or let it all grow?
As far as strangers mistaking genders, it doesn't bother me and I don't think it has much to do with hair. Both of my boys have had long hair, sometimes in pigtails and only my older son ever got mistaken for a girl. It even happened when he was a totally bald baby. It has never happened to my younger son.
Alison, mama to my boys: KidA (12/07) and KidO(06/10)