Re: s/o: You got me excited to skip the birthday party
We don't do parties either. As far as friends/family....it will be roughest the first year. The second is still kind of rough--but after that you're homefree!! If you and DH decide that's what you want to do then just stick to your reasons and repeat them calmly and often to any who try to persaude you. Eventually they'll realize that they won't change your mind. One other thing we did that helped was ask each side of our parents what was the MOST important holiday/event/occasion that they would like to attend with their grandchild each year. They could not pick birthdays, because that was not an option. They told us which was the most important to them, and we make sure to make that happen. But the rest is our family, our choice.