Re: 2 under 2
Hello there ladies!
It is tough w/ 2 LOs and trying to EC them both. If you feel you need to focus on one to get things working better than please do.
Is it possible to get both of them on the potty @ the same time? I am still doing this w/ my 4 and 7 yr old. My 4 yr old will say she doesn't want to go but if I say go w/ your sister she is more likely to do it. Sometimes I will put the potty in the bathroom and just hearing one start peeing gets the other one going. You could make a game out of it saying lets call the pees out (the sillier the better). Another thing I like to do is take my DD to the bathroom when I go, maybe you could do this an alternate w/ each DS or both if it isn't too much.
Since you know there is a predictable morning poop for both boys can you try to get there a bit earlier and offer to have them both sit on the potty w/ fun toys and books?
Another thing about your DS1 not caring about pooping in his dipe, is maybe try to lose the dipe for certain periods of the day to maybe get him to be more aware and more willing to use the potty. If you have a non-carpeted part of the house and you let him run around there and watch closely or what about letting him be in the tub when you think he is going to poop. It will be messy but at least it is contained in the tub and he maybe be more willing to get poop in the potty if it isn't contained in the dipe.
I know you are doing your best w trying to keep up w/ communicating about how it will be better and more comfy to poop in the potty. Do what you can and know you will be looking back on this time and know you got past it.
Best wishes and keep us posted!