Re: How big of a family
I think for my husband and I a lot was based on what was perceived as normal to us. My husband is one of three. I am one of 12. He wanted 3 kids which we now have. I wanted 12 kids which because of infertility we will never have. When I told him how many I wanted he thought I was joking so never argued for a lesser amount. I wasn't joking and assumed he was on board. Because of infertilty it has never been an issue. I consider us fortunate to have 3 kids although we are now hoping we may yet have a fourth.