Personally, I feel it is better to have a talk with with "grandmother in chief" for each family instead of a blanket email or letter to them all at once. I think expressing your concerns and feelings will bring you closer together and that's in part what the holidays are about.
I would be slightly ticked off if I got a blanket letter like this instead of a phone call to discuss gift exchange ideas, but that is just my honest opinion. I totally understand where you are coming from, but I think it should be a personal conversation.
Last edited by Resellmybelle; 12-03-2012 at 10:12 PM.