Re: How do I teach her to stand up for herself?
When she's older, you can help her understand that not telling people what you do & don't like is a disservice to them as well. I'm a bit of a people-pleaser, and that kind of logic helps me get over it when I feel cornered. I'm guessing a Kinder wouldn't have the ability to think that abstractedly just yet, though.
A (usually) happy wife mama to my BOGO girls, DD1 July 2010 and DD2 Dec 2011.