Re: Would it bother you if..
I think it's rude of anyone to assume it's ok to just announce when you will be visiting, and expect to stay with them at their house. Family included! At first I was thinking you meant inviting himself to their birthday, which I do think it should be assumed family can attend a grandchilds birthday (we are birthday party throwers though, so everyone in our family comes....).
And in addition to that, I would definitely be upset that the transportation issue means you are all stuck at home for a week or someone has to stay behind. That wouldn't fly with me! Is this a financial issue that he doesn't want to rent a car, or does he not realize that your car seats only enough for your family? Do you have a guest bedroom that he stays in or does he displace others while staying there? Does he chip in for groceries, etc?
Proud SAHM to Connor (8-6-10)
and our little