Re: How do you help kids purge without the meltdown tears?
A lot of times I make up a big box of donation toys and leave it in the hallway. The kids see it, they grab one thing out of it, and play with it in the playroom. I let them take that one thing, then the rest goes. I figure that one toy will make the next round. If they ask where something went, I just tell them that we shared it with other kids who don't have any toys. No meltdown tears yet. I would ask for your kids to pick one thing that they want to share with other kids. After they pick one thing, add whatever else you want to. If they ever ask, which they rarely do, tell them that it went to the other kids along with *whatever they picked to donate*. It also sometimes to pick up to items and ask your kids which one they'd like to KEEP. This focuses them on the positive, and they're less likely to thing about the negative (meaning the one that gets donated).
SAHM to Coralie, 1/09, Siri 9/10, Ellie Sue 9/12, Baby #4 due May 2014.