Re: Ahhh! Birthday present overload!
DS1 and dd have a 12/27 birthday; we've gone with gift-free birthdays for them (from everyone except dw and I) since his 3rd birthday. Everyone is welcome to give them gifts of time (a special overnight, or my sister, who is a yoga instructor, will do one-on-one yoga with them -- which they love). We get grumbling about it every year fromthe grandparents, but we hold firm. Ds1 is having his first friends party tomorrow for his 7th birthday, and we were explicit on the invite: your presence is the only present required (no gifts, please). We'll see if our wishes are respected.
We just tell people the truth, that the kids wouldrather have time together than an object.
SAHD to J 12.27.05, M 12.27.08, and A 2.15.11.