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Old 12-09-2012, 07:46 AM   #62
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Re: Im a little upset...should i be?

Originally Posted by Joyful Tie Dyes View Post
I'm not a prude or even conservative and I have tiny boobs but I'm glad my Mom did not encourage me to objectify myself at 14 by allowing a bra like that. What message is this sending 'our' little girls?
I don't think the message is any different than the one we send by letting them style their hair vs forcing them to wear it however it naturally falls, allowing them to wear a particular color of sweater because it complements their skin tone & makes them feel good, allowing them to whiten their teeth, permitting them to shave legs or pluck unibrows, work out to define muscles/sculpt the body, or wear lengthening mascara on skimpy lashes. the message reads as: "this is your body, you own & control it, & no one (not even I) has the right to try to try to take that control from you. I love you, trust you, respect you, & will always be here as you continue to grow, explore, & become the you that you want to be"
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