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Old 12-12-2012, 12:23 PM   #11
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Originally Posted by MamaLump
My DS has been hitting DH and myself lately when he is angry and not getting his way. If it is getting dressed or diaper changes and he is on his back, he kicks too. We've just checked out some parenting books from the library, but we don't really know what to do. Is it too early for "time out"? And if not, how do you get them to understand they have to stay somewhere? Sleep is already a battle, so I really don't want to use the crib or pack n' play for time out as I don't want MORE negative associations with them. Maybe a small bean bag chair and it could be a "cool down" time? I'm 14 weeks pregnant, so especially the kicking HAS to stop soon. (Not that it would be ok otherwise, but this makes it slightly more urgent.)
My two suggestions:
-Try time in: you immediately respond with "OW! No hitting, hitting hurts me!" then you go to a quiet spot and hold him until he is calm and ready to apologize. Talk quietly and firmly, repeating "hitting hurts. We can't play if we hit people. When you are ready to say sorry, you can try playing again." Accept any version of "sorry", hug or kiss whatever you prefer. Let it go once he apologizes. At this age, each incident needs to be thought of and treated as the only incident - he doesn't yet understand that he just did that five minutes ago.

-Look for targeted children's books, not just parenting books. "No Hitting for Little Hamster" is a great one for his age. Many toddlers respond better to role playing than to discipline. You can say "remember what little hamster said?" and let them self-direct their behavior.
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