Re: If you had to choose...
I would take #2 also.
DH and I have been married 8 years. He works Tues-Sat 9am (or as late as 2pm) till 9:30 or 10. During busy times add sunday in there too. I work 6:30am - 2:30pm Mon-Friday.
We only see each other on Monday evenings, for a little bit before I go to bed during the week and on his other day off. We have made it work. It would take a lot for me to switch to different hours. I like being able to pick my younger kids up form daycare at 3pm and home by 3:30 to meet DS1's bus.
wife and mom-- no other special labels. Just trying to do the best I can.