I did a huge amount of research when I was planning a vbac with my second. I had wonderful care from amazing midwives until I had to transfer to an ob. My hospital experience was great, but it wasn't what I'd envisioned. After my hospital experience (where I experienced heavy bleeding that pitocin couldn't stem) dh does not support me in my quest to home birth this time.
The best thing you can do is arm yourself with information. Once you are informed you can present enough information to hopefully help your husband to at least consider a consultation with a home birth midwife.
I wish you luck in getting the birth you want.
Anjuli, recently separated mom to Bubbles, my 5.5 year old wild man, Squidge, my almost 3 year old daredevil, and Lou, my 7 month old newbie