Re: How much do you pay your Nanny?
If you are spelling things out, and she is ignoring them, and acting like the conversation never happened earlier, that is a red flag to me. If she agreed to it, and is backing out, I wouldn't like that. There is no middle ground for "I will ignore what you tell me".
But the next person I hire, I would try to work something else out. We've done half pay for missed days, like one of the three times in a few years she was ill. Doesn't have to be all or nothing.
Sarai, RN, non-profit volunteer, cloth diaper ministry, Married for 20 years, mama to 2 kids on Earth, and 2 little girls in Heaven, G., T., K. and J.