Re: So whats the big deal with making sure babies gender conform?
As far as boy names go I think it is mean to give a boy a girl name. It is just setting them up for extra teasing. Boys have it hard enough. No need to give the kids an excuse to tease them.
As for toys and clothing I don't think it is such a big deal what they play with. Unlike a name they at least get to choose this for themselves and change things up if it isn't working for them.