Re: So tired of the screaming/crying!
I feel your pain, Mama. Our 7 y/o screams when he doesn't like something. I hear the "You hate me," or disrespect or whatever.
So, I don't offer a choice....You can have a banana. period. You can go to your room for being disrespectful. period. You can go to bed.
Of course, he would love to have his privileges, but with repeated offense they are taken away...no video games, no video, no dessert AND a chores are added for each offense. Some days he is a VERY busy boy! I went through this w/C1, too.
Someone, once told me that when I am argued with, disrespected etc. To throw the back of my hand against my head and feign a fake southern belle accent and say, "Oh, you're drainin' my energy." and then add a task so that she could restore that energy. It REALLY worked. I think I'll start that with my son! (When I get my voice back.)