Re: Do you clean your teen's room?
As a teen, my room was really messy. Mostly piles of clothes and clutter. Not biohazard because I never ate in there. I'm still not a neatnik, but I did change a lot in college, when I had to either share a room, or had a room the size of a postage stamp which functioned as bedroom, living room, office, etc. It would have been embarrassing to have underwear lying on the floor and have friends in my room. So, just saying, I would probably let him leave it messy, as long as it does not involve food or moisture or something actually harmful. Also, make him do his own laundry, because the natural consequence of having dirty laundry piled up, is having no clean clothes to wear.
SAHM to B (10/10) and E (9/12)