Re: controling attitude and anger?
Have you considered going to your daughter when she is looking for you and crying under the bathroom doorway instead of trying to hide from her? Maybe she just wants her mother?
Honestly, you are already seeing your behavior repeated in your oldest. This is what happens. You are teaching them every day. You are creating the adults that they will be.
What does your husband think about the way you treat your daughter? Is he ok with it?
I think the best way to deal with this is to get therapy for yourself. I don't think YOUR behavior as you describe it here is healthy, which you seem to acknowledge. I don't think this is the type of thing that you can just correct with some tips.
Maybe you can send her to pre-school? Get a nanny for while you are working?
Last edited by GreyMum; 01-20-2013 at 08:40 AM.