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Yep yep yep! In the exact same boat. We recently had an argument about it. He takes the fact that we are anti-CIO to mean that if there is ANY way to stop DS's crying/fussing that is the route we should take. I pointed out that I leave him with MIL, SIL, etc..l all the time and at one point when he realizes I'm not there, yes, he fusses for a few minutes and then he's fine. I think he doesn't feel super confident about his ability to comforta DS but I also think he gets tired of constantly having to change task and redirect. He was like "you say it's so hard but you finished a whole class in a few days while watching him" yet he can't watch him through one tantrum w/out bringing him to me.