Re: I need help, bonding with children that are no babies
You are doing a great job! Your love and concern for all of your children is apparent in your posts. And seeking help is a great first step. Karen Purvis has written some excellent books are adoption and attachment. I see a pp told you about empowered to connect, that would be a great starting part. On that site she has this video discussing how to find the right professional to help your family.
You really do need someone trained in Adoption issues. General drs and therapists won't be able to give enough help. And I am a firm believer in that while things might not ever be for your "adopted" children what they could have been given different birth and early year difficulties, you all and progress and move forward.
Wife to my DH, mama to DS 8, DS 5, DS 3, DD 2 and DD 09/2011!