Re: ok this is going to sound stupid but...
You are trusting God when you followed DH's leading as He appointed your DH to lead you. Maybe He was guiding DH's decision to the benefit of you all even though it can be hard. I think a good prayer for these situations is "Lord, according to YOUR will soften DH's heart and guide him or close the desire in mine." I believe He will do one or the other. He will bless your non-nagging, gentle submission to your husband... in what way, only He knows!