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Old 01-28-2013, 08:06 PM   #9
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Re: Gender Disappointment

i had that with my 4th child. I really wanted a girl vs a boy and I was utterly depressed over it. (just being honest) it took me about 6 months AFTER his birth to completely fall in love. it was not easy, i found out what he was by accident and i wished I had just seen at birth... I think thats the issue w alot of gender disappointment. if you dont find out at 17-20 weeks, you will fall in love with whats kicking in your and the surprise at birth.
I did not find out what I was having w number 5 and I had to come to terms that I may be having a boy. I was forced to do that for 9 months. I did end up getting another girl on #5 and I honestly think it would have only stung a tad if it were a boy.

talk it thru. do whatever you can to heal and process it BY delivery. dont go into postpartum like me. far too many crying nights. it was senseless.
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